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Gamechanger: How To Live Your Life By Different Rules Part 2

Last month I shared with you about our GAMECHANGER event and how I have been on a mission to help people who do not train in martial arts understand how martial arts is used by me as a personal development tool. This event is meant to highlight personal development and the strong female role models we have in martial arts.

Today, I am going to share with you the second of three success principles that we will be teaching at this event (without the cool martial arts moves) and that is how to change your  Perception.

Change the Way You Look At Things

Wayne Dyer said, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

How do you do that? Have you ever been in a situation, and you just knew all of the reasons that it happened, and then a few weeks later you get more information and find out you were completely wrong? What changed? You got more information, and it changed the way you looked at the actions of the other person. You changed your perception of what they did.

As I have said before, the human brain is such a powerful tool. Most of us underestimate just how powerful because part of how we measure our value in the world is based on external factors. We forget how the brain works and that we believe what we think, and our beliefs are the assumptions that we make about ourselves and others. Our beliefs can limit us and stop us from doing what we might perceive as possible.

It Starts With Making A Choice

So the first thing to remember when changing the rules that you live by is to believe that you can.

Nothing new will happen if you don’t believe that you can do it — period. Believing in yourself is the very first step that you must take. If you don’t mentally make the shift that what you want is now in the realm of being not just possible in the world, but also possible for you to create it, you will never make it happen.

But how do you begin this if you have been struggling to achieve success?

You must face how you feel about yourself and make a choice to change it. You must be willing to acknowledge all your unique skills and abilities, your perspectives, and how only you can communicate your message to the world.

What about my strengths and weaknesses, they are important too, right? Yes, that is a part of this process, of course, but usually, we get stuck in what we aren’t good at doing or being and never get to our uniqueness and what makes us special. Accept Who You Are Right Now.

You are worthy

As a matter of fact, one major misconception about worthiness, or self-worth, is that you build it from outside of you. This is not true –self-worth is built from the inside out. Don’t believe me? What do Robin Williams, John Belushi, Whitney Houston, and Heath Ledger have in common? They were rich, had amazing careers, millions of fans, and STILL died prematurely and with feelings of loneliness and unworthiness.

It’s time to make peace with yourself. To affirm and accept who you are. To put aside ideas of who you should be and embrace who you already are—you are amazing. Own what makes that true about you. Take our 5-Day Love Yourself Challenge--it is free and will help you begin.

Until next month, go and Be Exceptional, Be Amazing, and Be You! (Be Baby!)

Tracy Huff, Owner of Family Martial Arts Academy/Instructor/4th Degree Black Belt/Veteran and Author.  Part of this article is from “How To Punch Failure in The Face” available on Amazon.   Listen to our podcast, “How To Punch Failure in The Face” on Anchor.

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